I lived in San Francisco between '96-'05. I would have been "Tim F" on the old listserv, but my lurk-to-post ratio is at least 10:1. (see what I did there?)
I definitely saw the post 9/11 gig at the Fillmore and the "Capricornia" tour at the Warfield. Pretty sure I saw one other show in SF. "Breathe" tour at the Fillmore maybe? But those years were fairly lean in terms of the Oils on our shores. (Before SF, I was in NYC and saw a handful of gigs there. First Oils were three shows on the never-ending "D&D" tour, two in Chicago, one in Denver.)
Moved to Seattle in '05 and Erika T is one of the first people I met after I moved. Will be doing the Northwest trio at the end of the month (PDX, SEA, VanCAN).